Therapy & Coaching
We understand that relationships are not always smooth and we aim for ‘therapy & coaching conversations’ between couples to be collaborative, authentic and positive.
Strong conflict can cause deep pain and leave people feeling isolated and desperate for a meaningful human connection—even as acrimony and distrust drives them further apart from their partner. However, research has found that couples therapy that is evidence based can help 70% of couples and assist in reconnecting, rebuilding relationships, and re-establishing a sense of shared purpose and meaning.
“Individuals at the crossroads of divorce can sometimes feel like they have to choose between two competing options. ‘Do I divorce so that I can find happiness again, or do I stay together for the family’s sake and remain unhappy?’ We think that is a false choice. There is good evidence to suggest that with the proper help and willingness on the part of both spouses, many marriages that might otherwise end in divorce can become healthy, vibrant, and supportive.”
– Hawkins, Fackrell, & Harris, Should I Try to Work it Out?
Why Gottman Couples Method Might Be
Right For You
We lean heavily on the Gottman Couples Therapy Method, which is considered the ‘gold standard' in couples therapy. Based on 45+ years of research with 3000 couples, this comprehensive model can predict divorce/separation with 91% accuracy after a 15 minute observation. It employs realistic strategies for shifting couples' behaviours from dysfunctional to functional.
The Gottman method takes a ‘nuts-and-bolts’ approach to improving relationships. It teaches specific techniques for deepening friendship and intimacy. It also teaches methods to manage conflict, address resolvable problems and promote dialogue on ‘gridlocked’ or perpetual issues. It helps couples appreciate their relationship’s strengths and gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.
The Gottman Couples Therapy Method takes a real-time, skills-based learning approach. It allows couples to talk through things without blame while developing their own unique and effective communication style. It can create a platform for couples to expand conversations and explore options while energising them to refocus on living more meaningful, connected and satisfying lives.
The Gottman Couples Therapy Method
The Assessment Phase
A thorough assessment is conducted to understand your circumstances and needs, and to collaboratively establish the best options for moving forward.
The Therapy Phase
Given that each relationship is different, each couple will have their own Customised Therapy Map. The length of the therapy phase and the appointment formats will depend on your needs.
The Integration Phase
During this phase, couples spend time working together at home to ensure that new skills, strategies and behaviours are actioned. It is recommended that couples engage in follow-up appointments to ensure they can consistently utilise the skills, strategies and ideas that have been learned.
The Relapse Prevention Phase
At this point, most couples feel confident to continue re-building on their own. Research has indicated that continuing with check-in appointments is important in guarding against relapses.